Mom’s or Papa’s Child

papa'sI am sure this exists in most (every) family. We like mother or father most and one of us support us – by helping us hide all mistakes, give pocket money, constant encouragement and others. Why does this happen? We also see that one of them will want the child to take action and other will object, wanting to leave things as they are. Do you recall homework (for example), getting you to do homework – your father expects discipline in finishing task before you hit bed; while your mother insists to leave this decision to you. We also likely to see confrontation after confrontation with each parent. As a child, I will play one parent against the other, always playing up to the lenient parent. What traits will help the parents to reach agreement? Keep tuned to know about this ever-on-going Amrita Relay at Reflection

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The Forer Effect

The forer effect also known as subjective evaluation effect, is ‘that people tend to accept a vague and general personality descriptions as uniquely applicable to themselves, without realizing that the same could be applicable just about anyone.’ Is it true? The kind of personality assessments or tests or Horoscopes, and among many other methods depend upon this effect, seem valid. There are numerous case studies that have shown so-called experts use this technique to win over unsuspecting and vulnerable individuals.

This type of reading is called ‘Cold Reading’. Cold reading refers to a set of techniques used by manipulators to get subject behave in a certain way or think cold reader possess some qualities or ability that allows to know things about subject.

We leave you with a question to ponder, are these personality tests or horoscope are used to win over individuals?

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A lot of Jaan ❤ in Jab Tak Hai Jaan!

Why Jab Tak Hai Jaan is likely to work?

I shall put my views based on Marketing Insights by Philip Kotler book.
1. Supplier: Yash Chopra’s has got right ‘Supplier’ such Anil Mehta, Cinematographer (National Film Award),Gulzar (National Film Award) and A. R.Rahman (Oscar Winner). Yashji knew that these suppliers will deliver promised quality level to its customers. Their presence will provide value adding advantage to the movie.
2. Target Market: Yashji movies never aimed at biggest market, but best definitely. JTHJ movie projection is for his repeated users rather than buyers.
3. Public Relations: Who else can be right person for Yash? Shahrukh Khan (SRK) himself a great public personality, it says all. To add to this, Yash Chopra himself reaching to audience on TV with SRK just has got it right.
4. Loyalty: Chopra’s family has given consistent quality and discriminate movies over 5 decades. This has ensured to have build loyal customers.
5. Image Marketing: Yash Chopra and few other directors understand the importance of image (location, sets and costumes) and emotional marketing (dialogues) to win customer mind share and heart share.
6. Word of Mouth: We all we get to know about the outcome of film in terms of hit runway in sometime, no ad or sales or public relations can convince as a viewers will put thumps up or down and this will persuade others.

It is a matured love story blossoms as movie progresses. All ingredient of Yash Chopra’s movie is seen, one would miss Kajol with SRK. The script could have tightened for half an hour. As a thinker, I would see that – its specially a movie for teenagers to understand some interesting thing about love, emotions and people. For people who fall in love say 23+ age will understand the importance of character sketched. The movie has shades of Veer Zaar and DDLJ at times. One need lot of patience to sit through first half and second half goes slightly better because of Anushka Sharma. A good performance by SRK, Anushka Sharma and wish Kajol was seen instead of Katrina Kaif. Never the less its a last movie of Yash Chopra and appreciate his work. Hence I would avoid to rate this movie.

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Lie Mask: Smile

The smile is the mask that is employed at most among the other emotions to hide other emotion. This is perhaps counterfeit negative emotions (anger, distress and so on); the message of happiness pull off many deceits. Let us consider these two examples to understand –

1. At school or college, irrespective of a teacher or lecturer reacts on you, as a student you might be disappointed but you still try to keep calm and smile.
2. Unexpected delay in promotion or lost the position to someone else are likely to disappoint you; you are still expected to have smile infront of your manager. This is done to show that you aren’t hurt or angry about being passed over for promotion.

People will generally over look lies in the context of polite greetings, because of amiability and pleasantness shown by the person. This can be argued and debated on saying that it is wrong to call these as lies. To insist it as a good mask, smile facial expressions are easier to make of emotions like infants do. No wonder the deceit smile of a child pleases others.

In given any context, smile falsely present feelings not felt or useful to show. The only challenge is the timing of the unfelt smiles – it can be either too quick or too slow. They also seen based on the word or phrase before or after. It is easiest movements in comparison to other emotions.

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Hide Lie: Mask

We continue with the previous article on Marry Me: Lie, the one of best way to hide these strong emotions during lying is with a mask. It is seen that a person tries to cover face (commonly seen while people are caught in legal situation) by a cloth or hand or turning away from the person, these can be a strong indicator of hidden agenda or a lie.

It is not easy to have false emotion and if one could do it, it can be a great misleads. A false emotion is a combination of face impassive or inactive hand movements while a strong feeling is felt. Normally people can’t remain unemotional, neutral or cool during strong emotion feelings. The use of mask helps to counter those strong feelings of emotions.

If we look into the story of Ruth (Updike’s novel: Marry Me), while Jerry tells his wife (Ruth) that, he doesn’t believe her. This situation would have increased the panic level in Ruth and this would make harder for Ruth to hide the emotions. Generally we employ anger, surprise or amused to mask such emotions. Do we have not argued with our parents or friends with angry over such situation? or Do we not felt surprised while we were asked ? It is difficult to mask such strong felt immediate situation of lie. I leave with a question, how does one hide emotions without need to falsify?

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Marry Me: A Lie

I am taking a part of John Updike’s novel incident to discuss about Lie, Liar and Liability of Lie. The incident is, Ruth’s (wife of Jerry) telephone conversation with her lover (Dick) is over heard by her husband. If you look into the story, until this point she kept her affair secret never had to falsify, but confrontation by her husband, she had to falsify. Whenever we get caught in such kind of situation, we see that emotions become involved in a lie and emotions add to the burden that was kept a secret.

When her husband asks, “Who was that?” She panicked. ‘Oh somebody. Some woman from the Sunday school asking if we are going to enroll Joanna and Charlie.” I don’t say the panic state is of lying, but this can lead to suspicions. It is quite possible that Ruth wouldn’t panic if there is no secret affair. She being in a difficult position, not that she prepared her lie liner as she didn’t anticipate the need to hide. The state of emotions of panic was hard to hide, this can increase the chance of being caught. Does it mean innocent people when interrogated such emotions are commonly seen, are they liars too? Do interrogator conceal them?

Ruth is unlikely to succeed if she try hard to make herself look cool, unaffected or poker faced. It is quite common that when lips or hands tremble or voice drop or make a fist of fold hand – all lie still. As P Ekman describes that tightening and stretching lips, upper eye lids and brows are being pulled up in fear and it is hard to keep a still face. So the question is, how does someone hide these emotions?

Stay tuned to know more on the emotions and how one can hide them to during such situation.

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We welcome you back to the next session on making the class room a better place for children to teachers.

When students ask question, for example Exercise 2, Problem No.2, Page 20 kind of question should be greeted with echolalia followed with clarification.

Students, Did you hear that? Shall I repeat it?
It’s an excellent question, Raj. Would please repeat it for the benefit of others?
Let me see if I am correct about your question, You would like to know … . …. Did I got it right?
Is anyone there, not clear with the question?

The intention behind this delay is good, this will ensure the teacher and students are in sync and understood the question. This also helps the teacher to get time to answer the question, this also might trigger various other possible answers or pointer from other students. If that could happen, it is health to have a debate.

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Failure to Communicate

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Failure to Communicate
It is likely that a student perhaps hasn’t posted the question very clearly; it was misinterpreted. It is also unlikely that a student would take risk of saying, “That’s not the question or I meant this.” Because of the varying culture we are asked to remain silent, unfortunately if this continues it very likely that a student will stay permanently silent. Do we want that to happen?

As teacher, we shouldn’t hold on to few words, have a ugly guess about the question and give a lengthy answer. It is also seen students complain about the teacher to their head of dept or counselor but the trouble might lies elsewhere.

Peer Pressure – Dunce

Welcome back to the next section on the on-going series brought to you by Amrita Foundation. We did see that students find that there is an invisible wall and a teacher is expected to jump or break this wall to make the communication go stronger.

It is possible that as a teacher start to ask good questions, but get to see that students may be afraid to say anything that might make them look dunce in front of peers. We also get to see that students silently mouthing an answer, as they are afraid to say out loud. This is happened to most of us while we were studying during our school days.

To make the students overcome this problem, teacher need to make them feel comfortable – this might not happen right away. I recall a teacher in my seniors that, she was strict during our first year of interaction and she became a friend by the end. She used to be supportive to all our wrong answers or mistakes in problems and many on-responses. She would say,

“I see that you have got partial answer right, Sameer, but you have hit the bull eye.”

“Don’t worry about these kind of problems, Sachin, you will need to practice more.”

Perhaps these kind of responses will go a long way toward convincing them that it’s all right to hazard an answer.

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“Invisible Wall” to “Thinking Wall”

Here we bring you next section on the on-going series about challenging students face while lecturing from a teacher. It is seen at times, as soon as the teacher arrives to the class start asking “Any questions?” to the previous session (class). The dynamics of student learning need to be appreciated, as they move from one thinking to another in less than 2-5 minutes of each class hour. In middle of this change, they are also occupied with life’s problems or nothing at all. It is quite likely that they can’t even remember the current topic and its difficult to recall the past one.

As a teacher, these are the following suggestion may be used:

1. Allow the mental sap flow by giving them the overview of the previous section such as – formulas or equations or theory.
2. Let them review the cheat sheet or points.
3. Give them a problem set, give mistakes and ask them to check those mistakes.
4. Give about 5 minutes to work individual or in a small group. While they solve the problem, go around to check and try to scribe at the board to see some of them are unable to go ahead. This will being life to the class as everyone has just thought of the same topic and were able to solve them.

I leave you with a question to ponder over, does it easier for a teacher to ask and answer question? This may be much needed to do for a successful class room teaching.

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