I had newly joined a college after much of hardship that was several furlong away from my adobe. To my bad luck, I often reached ten (or more) minutes late to the campus. Late is perhaps a negative word that invites punishment. Firstly I had to answer to the principal who wasn’t in a position to listen. He only knew to yell and asked me not to show my face again. Did he stop seeing me next day? Never! This delayed to attend first period and often the door remained closed to indicate ‘not allowed’. This pattern got a prefix to my name ‘Late’ Lateef. I wasn’t late by choice but poverty, walk (unable to afford transport), and aging parents are few factors to being late. I wish learning place could understand that the intent is important than a pattern. The pattern was of major concern because everybody in hierarchy had agreed to it without asking ‘why’.
This pattern cost me separation, antagonism, exploitation and so on. Earlier I believed that place of learning create a new free individual. Is it really doing it?
Last few years life in semi-urban or rural areas has fascinated me that often city misses to provide. There is rush and turmoil to be someone or make or break something.
One of my friend from one of such city mentioned the problem ‘on giving a charity to the needy’. He looked disturbed because the receiver of charity handed it down to someone else. This act of receiver seemed disturbing him since the time. I inquired to understand ‘why was he making a problem of it?’ He thought for awhile and said, ‘I might still have a feeling of possession.’ That the receiver should have kept it to oneself.
This is exactly the problem with the work or charity that doesn’t the right spirit. This doesn’t mean that spirit isn’t there but it existed as self-deception in the above case at a level. How do we look into it?
We tried to discuss such virtual cords that often we get entangled in our lives through a book ‘Umbilical Cord’.
Fear and Happiness is like a cat and mouse chase stories. It’s fun to think but having fear is to handicap a potentially performing man. This could be because man lives beyond just food!
Students were taken through the discussion with activities to think on making a classroom without fear. Some stories were used to reflect on this aspects.
A photo to cheer in the end!
~Dreams are beginning to HOPE~
An workshop (Part 1) was conducted for VI and VII grade students of an international school. The workshop intended to help the students to realise the unique quality and value they could bring to themselves.
School could be the best place to beginning inculcating the importance of ‘Unique Me’. Several observations have shown us in the past trainings that students (graduate and postgraduates) who haven’t addressed this issue have found to be lived introvert life. There isn’t bad thing being an introvert but they could have been extrovert and achieved much larger than otherwise.
The inputs from Dove initiation were handy to incite the right message that help students to connect the objective.
The session was conducted for X, XI and VIII students and the first of series looked promising beginning. We hope to uplift the self-esteem as the sessions progress. Do you know your ‘Unique Me’?
I was excited to watch R Balki’s movie since its announcement because it had to do with some articles that I had written during 2014 (I Want to Marry House Husband) and followed another article (click here), both the articles have received highest number of visitors and comments. Many comments have not been approved because there was inquiries to become House Husband. These two articles inspired to write a book titled ‘Umbilical Cord’ (click here) that has one Cord (chapter title) on same theme. It’s good to see that gender stereotyping is addressed through large canvas. Dr Shayan Haq and I attempted to address this topic in an a book She: Ekla Cholo Re which has become one of the highly acclaimed one!
This momentum of watching had a small lump after critic’s review and rating. I re-read several reviews to see the challenge that most of them had difficulty in understanding the gender stereotyping. This confusion is reflected very well in the later half of the movie especially towards the end when Kia makes her presence felt with typical the way man thinks of woman in a family.
Although there have several movies that have taken this theme and few them Govinda has in it but R Balki’s Ki & Ka is a promising beginning to break gender stereotyping. Kudos to the entire team for making a good beginning!